Friday, February 4, 2011

A revelation...

‎"Love is the commitment of my will to your needs and best interests, regardless of the costs." ~Grace Based Parenting by Dr. Tim Kimmel

What a statement?!?! This is what was in the bible study class that I went to this week. I am taking a Grace Based Parenting course to go right along with my One Word for the year. I can really tell that I am growing in my spiritual self as well as in the way I treat others. But this week the lesson really hit a home run with something that I have been struggling with my whole life. I am going to break this up into two sections.

Dr. Tim Kimmel made this remarkable statement in his book and study guide: ‎"Love is the commitment of my will to your needs and best interests, regardless of the costs." Talk about some deep stuff. The first part of this statement I have no problems with at all. Anyone that really knows me, or shot has had any contact with me at all, will tell you I put others needs before my own. I am a giver, that's my love language. I will give and give until I can't give anymore. But that is not good enough and here is where the second part comes in.

Regardless of the costs... This is where I run into problems. While we were discussing our lesson in class a question was asked in the book: Which part of this statement ‎"Love is the commitment of my will to your needs and best interests, regardless of the costs." is the hardest for you to carry out? Since our class is very small we are allowed to just talk freely with whatever is on our hearts. So I started just talking and eliminating the first part of the statement I was left with the last part. I dug a little deeper because I didn't think that would be it. I don't ask for money in return for anything I give. I don't ask for anything to be returned to me. So this can't be it, can it?

But wait! It is! Why? I dug down deep and found my answer. Regardless of the cost is it for me. I always, ALWAYS expect something in return. Recognition, praise, time... SOMETHING!!! And as I was talking all this out the instructor really saw the light bulb go off in my head. Praise to Jesus that this was brought to my attention in this way. He has a plan for everyone's life and if we aren't going in the direction that He wants us too, He will find a way to bring it to our attention and boy did He do that to me this week.

Now back to the original statement. After reading this I went back and re read the whole chapter. The statement here Dr. Tim Kimmel has classified it as the defination for the word "love" and I can whole heartedly agree that this is the true deffination for it.

God is great and He is working on making me a better woman! Thank you God for not giving up on me!


  1. You and my friend Jennifer should really guest blog together:

  2. Awesome, Dawn. Read that book and loved it! Keep on seeking girl!! Love you :)